*For a pre-verbal or newly verbal child, please see this post about expectations.
Expectation – a strong belief that something will happen or become the norm in the future.
Identify your expectations, model them, and step in when your kids need help meeting them. Set high expectations and watch your kids not just meet but exceed them independently.
Being mindful about praise
I stopped writing this entry to take Keener to the bathroom and found myself saying “good job” unprompted. Why did I say it? I was truly proud of him for going to the bathroom. Although we started official potty training six months ago, it has only been a month since he consistently initiates using the bathroom. Since it is still a relatively new skill, I wanted to praise him because I was proud of him. I also want this behavior to continue.
Providing our kids with specific feedback
“Good job!” How many times per day do you find yourself saying that to your children? While writing this, I was especially focused on how many times I was saying it — oh my. I first realized I said this too much while teaching first grade. My students would show me their work and my response was generally “good job,” which really meant, “go sit down.” My principal, the mastermind behind the dead mouse story, has us currently focusing on student feedback, prompting me to think about feedback both in and out of the classroom.Read More